Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations: Time to choose yourself.

Sometimes in life we must make decisions in many cases can leave us feeling regretful and may even hurt. In these moments, we may even harness feelings of being a failure or not deserving especially when you are so use to putting others feelings before your own.

Today as I was reflecting on my journey and some uncomfortable things that have taken place in my life recently, for a moment I meditated on the process of releasing unrealistic perceptions and expections. I meditated on the feeling of loving and caring for someone in hopes to receive the same back from them. It takes a great deal of courage to acknowledge that not everyone will value us in the way we deserve and it's a significant milestone in our personal growth when we can release those who don't reciprocate the love and care we offer.

As we navigate through life, we often form idealized perceptions of how others should treat us and the kind of love and care we should receive. However, the unfortunate downside to these thoughts is that reality doesn’t always align with our expectations, and this can lead to disappointment and heartache. The beauty of this is that by recognizing and releasing these unrealistic expectations, we free ourselves from the burden of seeking validation from those who are unable to give it.

This process in our healing journey grants us the clarity to see others for who they truly are, rather than who we wished they coulld be. For me, the downside was realizing that these kind of realizations can even take place in your family; the biological family you were born into of individuals who are supposed to love and care about you unconditionally. We learn to acknowledge the reality of our relationships and to accept that not everyone will appreciate or understand your worth, including family. This realization can be so painful, but empowering. It enables us to redirect our energy towards those who genuinely cherish and support us, build, and foster deeper connections and finally embrace the love and care we deserve.

The process of letting go and detaching is never easy and will take you through a whirlwind of emotions, however by doing so we are choosing ourselves and standing on self-respect. It’s a declaration that we value ourselves enough to surround ourselves with people who uplift and inspire us. We deserve authentic love and authentic care and should never have to settle for anything less.

We must continue to honor ourselves on our journey of healing and personal development even if it means leaving some people behind. The higher we elevate and heal our healed parts can trigger unhealed parts of others and that is in no fault of our own. This is something that I am learning daily and have learned to show empathy even to the ones that may not deserve it, but the time is now to release them and choose ourselves.

In choosing yourself, you are tapping into your inner resilience and allowing it to move you forward with grace and love.

We are all deserving and worthy of being loved and honored. We deserve the opportunity to cultivate genuine connections with those who see and appreciate us and reciprocate the love and care we offer. So, for now and beyond, we send love and light to those who didn’t deserve us as we are stepping into a better version of ourselves. RIP to those that didn’t do right by us and may we continue to thrive and grow in the light of our own self- worth.